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What My Kid Really Sees

Kimberlee Leonard

Posted on September 12, 2018 14:07

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Being a good role model to our kids is important. But we need to be self-aware enough to understand when we are inadvertently modeling negative behaviors.

I think most parents truly try to be good role models for their kids. Children naturally model behaviors they see. Thus the easiest way for children to learn how to be good, caring and productive humans is to be one ourselves.

But what does that really mean? Sure we can go through the list of the common items. Do you say hello to the grocery store clerk? Are you friendly on the roads or engaging in road rage?

I’m currently taking a pretty big leap in my career and changing some things around. There’s a bit of risk involved both emotionally and financially. To say the least, I’ve been very focused, working extra hours and a bit cranky – if I am being honest.

While my son has only known me to work for myself, he isn’t really aware of the new direction I’m taking with my business. He isn’t aware of the risk. It occurred to me that all he really sees is his mom working extra hours, scrambling to get dinner on the table, and a bit peeved about the process, distracted by other things.

The truth is I don’t want to bore him or burden him with my business dealings, risks and emotional stresses. But at the same time, if he doesn’t understand why I’m a bit “off-center” for the last month, all he really sees is a cranky busy mom. Maybe that gets interpreted as not caring about him. 

That’s the last thing I want. 

A conversation will be had at dinner tonight. I don’t plan on making it complex, but outlining what I’m doing, why and how it will eventually be a very positive thing for our family. But it’s important that I’m aware that even with the best intentions of not burdening him, I’m modeling something I don’t want. As inadvertent as it is, taking the time to address and will be the only way to prevent any negative feelings, interpretations or modeling behavior.

I should be a little more mindful to leave my crankiness at the desk when getting to the dinner table. Yes, even moms need a reality check occasionally.

Kimberlee Leonard

Posted on September 12, 2018 14:07

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