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What are Friends?

Marlene Geiser

Posted on November 20, 2019 16:20

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Friends are wonderful things to have, but they can't always offer us more than a caring ear. Oddly enough, I haven't asked myself this question directly before, and am now in that situation.

My neighbor is a woman who is having issues in her marriage. I am eighty five and can't cope with her anxiety. I have my own emotional problems, and all I can do is to tell her to call her family who live in California for help.

I truly feel guilty, but I can't bring her into my home. My husband feels similarly, and agrees that we are in no position to offer her a home with us. She is a grown woman in her late fifties, and has tried in the past to offer me ways to cope. However, neither my husband nor I are in the physical or emotional shape to provide her with a place to live.

Have you ever found yourself in a similar position? If you have, I would much appreciate it if you could send me your advice.

The primary question I am asking here is what exactly are friends?

In all honesty, I have never been faced with this kind of dilemma before, and have to ask myself how I can still be a friend, but unable to provide her with a home away from the man to whom she is married.

If any of my readers have found themselves desperately wanting to help another human being and unable to do more than listen I would much appreciate hearing from them.

Strangely enough, I have never before asked myself the question I am positing.

Are friends people with whom you share joy, or are they also individuals you should feel obligated to help, regardless of what they need of you?

I am truly curious to hear what anyone who reads my words believes.

Perhaps I have always seen friends as people with whom one primarily shares fun, but life isn't always a bowl of cherries, to coin a phrase, and this is one of those times for this woman.  

Sadly enough, I haven't had many people I could refer to as my friends in my time on this planet. However, I have spent much of my life teaching, and perhaps considered my students and fellow professors as my friends. What I find amazing is that once in a very long while, I run into an ex student and sense that I was more to them then an opportunity to get a grade toward graduating with a specific degree. 

My husband says that for him, a friend is someone with whom he feels comfortable, and a person he can trust. They are someone from whom he can ask a favor, or from whom he can on occasion do a favor. That pretty much says it for me as well.  However, one is not always able to provide the answer that someone is pursuing.

If you are interested in joining this dialogue, please drop me a line.  

Marlene Geiser

Posted on November 20, 2019 16:20

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