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Thanksgiving as a Single Mom

Kimberlee Leonard

Posted on November 20, 2018 12:49

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Thanksgiving is a holiday filled with tradition. As a single parent, building the memories you always hoped to build can be hard.

For many of us, Thanksgiving holds special memories thanks to the traditions of our childhood. The problems with cooking the turkey as grandma slicked everyone out of the kitchen. Uncles fighting among each other over football, work or politics. Kids and dogs creating chaos at every turn.

Yes! I have always loved Thanksgiving.

Things changed a bit as a single mom. I was thousands of miles away from family and only had my son on alternating holiday years. It’s a shocking realization to know you can’t develop the same memories that became part of your core childhood dreams for your own child.

While there are some divorced families who manage to rise above and maintain a ‘family event’ for the kids, for most single parents this just isn’t the case. Every year becomes different especially if you live away from other families.

Orphan invites are nice but even in the midst of a room of jovial holiday foodies, you can feel isolated away from your child. Creating your own holiday dinners with your child are also riddled with feelings of guilt because the day just doesn’t compare with what you know and love from your own childhood.

You tell yourself that new traditions can be made. Being together is all that is important. Still, there are moments when it just doesn’t seem to be enough. Not for your child and not for your own personal gratification of the day. Bottom line is, it can be hard to be thankful even on the most thankful of days.

As we approach the busy holiday shopping and cooking, I ask you to reach out to someone you know starting new family traditions and memories. Ask them if they are okay and if they’d like to grab a cup of coffee. A quiet, real moment of connection often does more than being in a crowd of festivities.

I know this because I’ve been fortunate over the years to have friends do just that. Their love is something that lives in my heart every year and something I am truly thankful for.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Kimberlee Leonard

Posted on November 20, 2018 12:49

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