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Mother’s Day is about appreciation. What happens if no one does anything special for you on this one day?
Yesterday most moms woke up to kids giggling in the kitchen as they tried to make mom’s favorite breakfast. Mother’s Day is one of the few days that you don’t need to feel mom guilt for sleeping in; it’s actually your job on that day.
Sunlight peeked through my windows and my always hungry teenager walked into my room, “What’s for breakfast? Oh, Happy Mother’s Day.” As a single mother of a teenage boy, I didn’t have high expectations for my Mother’s Day breakfast. It didn’t bother me. In fact, I joked on Facebook about who got a cup of green tea with chocolate sauce for breakfast (one of my favorites he concocted when he was 9).
As I scrolled through Facebook, I realized how many moms were upset about spouses and kids just not caring about their special day. I empathize with these women, many of which I know for a fact put every ounce of energy every day to make sure their kids have everything they need to be healthy and successful. Feeling unappreciated stinks, which Mother’s Day is supposed to provide a one day respite from.
Yet I escaped the upset feelings that my son didn’t take a moment to do anything special for me. It wasn’t that he forgot the day because he was excited about the place we were taking my mom and grandmother for lunch. He just didn’t find it necessary.
While the future mother of his children might have an issue with that attitude, I didn’t. Why? Because I feel appreciated nearly every day as his mother. Yesterday was the first day I left the house without being on two crutches in nearly six months after a really serious knee injury. Later in the day as I gathered clothes to take to the washing machine, he approached saying, “Why didn’t you ask me to do it?”
This is who he is every day. I don’t have set chores for him, though I probably should. And I harp on things the same as any other mom: clean your room, don’t leave empty milk cartons in the fridge, and wear a clean shirt. But he doesn’t hesitate to take a moment to help me with big and little things. That’s the difference. I know I’m appreciated therefore one day doesn’t make or break everything.
So for those who might have upset mom just a little because Mother’s Day wasn’t done properly, take a moment today or tomorrow and just do something nice and unexpected. Appreciation is a daily thing. I am certainly appreciative of my son; after all, he did do the laundry.