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Is it Easy to End a Friendship?

Marion Charatan

Posted on June 26, 2022 23:37

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Not always, but sometimes it is necessary to balance your self-respect.

The older I get, the more I realize that good friends are hard to find. I value trusted friends I have known for a very long time--and they are true blue. They'll go out of their way to help. We all have times when the going gets tough. Problems can range from a simple need for a ride to the airport when you don't want to leave a car --to a more extreme need for help paying rent or mortgage.

Challenges come in all shapes and sizes. Maybe you just need someone to lend an ear. Although I'm one of those who are blessed to have multiple folks to chat with, not everyone has contacts they can reach out to. What can you do when no one is available? Resourcefulness and courage help in situations when we feel like there is no one to turn to. And there are listings for free telephone counseling if you are alone.

Since the onset of the pandemic, I have noticed many people are much more short-tempered. I was friendly with a woman I met at the gym who became a weekly walking partner. I walk at least an hour a day, with or without companionship, along with my regular workouts. It's nice to have company when possible. For some reason unknown to me, this person decided she wanted to end the friendship ( after three years) and told me, 'I don't feel good about this relationship.' That was it--no discussion, no attempt to smooth things over, nada. I felt hurt and undermined initially. What had I done?!? I searched my soul. The answer was simple: I did nothing wrong! She was just looking for an excuse to dump me. When I think back, I had felt tension brewing for a while. But perhaps the friendship had run its course. Not every relationship is permanent: everything has a season.

I have ended friendships. The reason often is a result of my response to women who were catty towards me (sorry, in my opinion, this is common in how some women respond to other women). Of course, I always tried to talk it out. But sometimes, that doesn't work. When I first moved to Seattle, I met a man through a dating service who was very nice--and also very good-looking. A so-called friend of mine made a snarky comment to me, which I won't dignify by repeating it--and I now believe it came from jealousy because she was alone. I certainly wasn't looking for acclamations from a friend. A simple, "I'm glad you met a partner" would have sufficed. This woman contacted me recently. I did not reply to her email, which is uncharacteristic of me. She said she was thinking about me and missed me. Guess what? I don't miss her. As for the former walking mate, good riddance! No more drama!

Maybe I need to stop being so analytical. Some people are just haters.

 

Marion Charatan

Posted on June 26, 2022 23:37

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