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Confronting One's Grief

Pearl Manandar

Posted on June 5, 2019 13:58

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Dealing with grief is an emotion so powerful and intense, especially when you have lost someone who you love the most. It is generally associated with a person but one can feel it even when they have lost something that means the world to them.

When someone who you are really close to leaves you in the midst of your journey on earth, it is a challenge like no other. You are shell shocked, confused, angry and you feel swept in an avalanche of emotions. The grief that you encounter is intense and powerful and the struggle that comes with it is unbearable.

I know this struggle as I have encountered this avalanche of emotions very recently. I woke up one morning to find out that this person who was my strength was no more. Suddenly, all this energy and vitality inside me had dried up and I found it extremely painful and exhausting to make everyday decisions. I felt completely unprepared for all the things that were coming my way. There are no quick fixes to deal with death and the grief that comes along with it, but there are ways to make the healing process a bit better.

Embracing Mourning

Mourning is an important part of the process whether it is personal or in public. It is a very important expression and it has helped me to adapt to my loss in an efficient manner. When you are faced with untimely grief, something that you never ever expected, you will also have a lot of people who will surround you all the time. Sometimes you want them and sometimes you don’t. These people have offered their time, energy and space to listen to me in my journey and their support has been unconditional. They have helped me move on from this intense pain.

The first few days with all the tears and pain had left me exhausted and tired. The flashback of memories and yearning to see this beloved person left me numb and even frustrated. I heard so many people say that the emotions that I was going through were normal. I realized through this process that one can’t live in denial for long and grief will take its own course which will help you cope with it in a better manner.

Eventually, I have accustomed myself to a routine where I keep a check on my overall well-being. One will still go through uninteresting days and sleepless nights; however, this routine will be your call to keeping yourself productive.  Simple tasks like appreciating the weather outside or listening to a podcast will do wonders like no other. Grief is an emotion which is unique to every person. The love, the memories that you shared with that person will make you appreciate your moments much better. Confronting this emotion for me has been a gradual one. I read somewhere that you don’t move forward when grief strikes, you move along with it and it will help you turn stronger.

Pearl Manandar

Posted on June 5, 2019 13:58

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Source: Al Jazeera

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