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Are You Gorgeous in Glasses?

Kathleen Thometz

Posted on September 23, 2018 09:30

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Why let a decades-old stereotype determine how you look in eyeglasses?

If my husband and I are attending a fancy event, I wear contact lenses instead of glasses, although I find them uncomfortable and can't see my food or the people I'm conversing with. Unlike other middle-aged women, I refuse to walk around everyday with bloodshot eyes and readers perched on my nose.

So, I'm resigned to the inconvenience of alternating between two pairs of prescription glasses, regular and sun. I've tried sunglass clips, and while convenient, they're easily lost or broken.

However, I haven't completely accepted my fate; at every eye appointment I ask if there is something new to try. I've tested bifocal lenses and monovision lenses. The latter has you wearing a contact in one eye for distance and in the other for up close. I found both options to be uncomfortable and blurry. I'm not a candidate for Lasik surgery, which I'm too terrified to do anyway, and I've no desire to require a dog as my permanent companion.

I'm frustrated that there are no good contact lenses for the middle-aged but given all of the things that can occur with maturing eyes, I should probably be grateful that I have glasses that allow me to see.

But it never occurred to me that others might find me attractive in my glasses until an observation my oldest son recently made, "Who decided nerds should be portrayed wearing big clunky glasses, some TV writer?" "Wait, it's okay to wear glasses? You find women who wear glasses attractive?" Yes, he does.

I got my first pair while in elementary school but didn't wear them religiously until college when I almost hit a runner while driving on a leafy, fall road. I don't know if kids are blinder than they were forty years ago because I see way more of them in big, chunky, colorful glasses. Perhaps, unlike those in my generation, they feel fine wearing them.

A couple of years ago, I offered to get contact lenses for my youngest child, Max. He'd been wearing glasses since kindergarten and was open but not excited. As it turned out, his eyes are wonky, and he could only wear custom-made hard lenses. He wore them for a day and then went back to glasses, which he thinks look perfectly great. My middle-age optometrist was more disappointed than Max was with his decision.

While out house hunting recently with a gorgeous, bespectacled realtor, I vacillated between wondering why he would cover his beautiful face with heavy-framed glasses, and when he was going to dash off to a phone booth, rip off his clothes, and come out as Superman.

So how did I miss a trend that what was literally staring me in the face? I've even purchased glasses at the Apple-like store, Warby Parker. Could it be because my optometrist is housed in an office that harks back to the 1970s colonial era? Or perhaps I've just been blind to the changing times.

Kathleen Thometz

Posted on September 23, 2018 09:30

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