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A Guide to Always Feeling Comfortable in Your Own Skin

Sean McDermott

Posted on November 2, 2020 17:17

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Living a life full of diverse relationships and unique accomplishments will make it easy to brush off competitive and passive-aggressive snubs.

There are so many archers out there. In today's overly competitive society, the word "archer" is metaphorical for the array of opposition-ists launching contrasting arguments, opposing narratives, and side-winding insults with subtle terminology to generalize your character about say, your choice of humor or political opinion. Individuals of today's society have developed such a "look at me," praise-dependency that it seems even in a hypothetical war against a common enemy, they will spring off a few "arrows" of passive-aggressive statements from some fictional hill of self-righteousness to try and move, silence, or make you feel insecure about yourself. So what do you do?

Smile, for shots taken from afar speak volumes about others ("Speak indirectly about someone -- everybody's doing it!")

It's not hard to side-step these fickle attempts at your heart and inspiration. You must be a very diverse person and someone who has the creative ability to converse about more than one worldly issue. It helps to have been raised in a neighborhood flourishing with different cultures and nationalities. Of course, you cannot teach someone where to be raised, but you can suggest there is long term personal security in respecting multiple traditions. You can't simply be tolerant; you must incorporate other lifestyles into your persona to find allies in places where those with limited interactions would feel awkward, nervous, and often hateful.

You can make a bunch of one kind of friend, but it may reflect badly if your collection of friends are all just like, well, you. You certainly will lack real knowledge, ingenuity, and ultimately, confidence from lacking multicultural relationships.

There's more to being perpetually comfortable in your skin: trials and tribulations. Personal victories and devastating losses in sports you played when you were young are good experiences. Consider times you found love, lost love and maybe found it again in your lifetime. With consideration of experiences like these, or others like them, personal security is grown from playing every hand in the deck. Having plenty to hang your hat on will maintain a confident state of mind regardless of what lies ahead.

Additionally, there is a reinforcement that makes all direct or indirect attempts to deter you from a state of confidence, and that is being a parent.

If you are responsible for another healthy and happy life, you won't even entertain the notion of anyone making you uncomfortable in your own skin. Anyone that is discontent with you instantly becomes irrelevant because the confidence you bestow in yourself you must now bestow in your child.

Our "united" society is so competitive, it is a paradox. But if you have the ability to relate to various people, have lived and loved, and find more than one topic interesting, subtle criticisms are repelled like dust in the wind. Add becoming a parent and something really remarkable to the list like shaking a former president's hand, and you've acquired a noble skill -- the ability to let nothing bother you.

Sean McDermott

Posted on November 2, 2020 17:17

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